Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Keep it coming, God

Well, well, well... God has blessed me with something (someone) once again... and his name is Mark. :)
To be honest, I didn't really see this coming at all! Granted I was the one to text him first, but I never imagined things would develop as quickly as they have!
I worked with Mark at the newspaper, but when I met him, I was in a relationship at the time and even after my breakup, I was totally against the whole work flirting stuff; therefore, it was total friend zone.
And actually, as I've told him, I thought that's where it was going to stay... but God had plans otherwise I believe.
I don't mean to break down the entire story, but sometimes it's nice to reflect back on how things came about to really see where God was simply putting the pieces together.
So since I don't work at the newspaper anymore, I hadn't seen Mark in a while ... until I saw him again at the fall Martinsville Speedway race. We talked, laughed, caught up, whatever... we didn't think much about it.
But after that day, we hung out as a group and I got to know him a little more... and seeing his personality, I started remembering things that I learned about him before like that he was raised a Baptist (as had I), has conservative views (as do I) and other things that really stood out to me.
As I remembered those things, I thought, you know maybe this guy is at least worth getting to know... what do I have to lose, right?!
In the time that I was getting to know him, I really didn't think much about it, and didn't really think I was looking for another relationship... but the more we talked, and the more we hung out, and the more we just connected on a spiritual and personal level ... my thoughts changed.
He is such a great guy and the best part is that we are trying to develop a relationship where the foundation is God.
We try to pray together and go to church together... and we hope to keep that up.
I've never really had a relationship where God was placed first ... and I've always been told all my life that those kinds of relationships are the ones that God will bless the most... so we shall see.
I feel like God has placed Mark into my life for many reasons... and one of those reasons could be that God sees that we could possibly walk closer to Him by having each other.
I don't know what God has in store for this relationship and I'm not trying to read much into it... but all I can say is "Thank You, God ... Keep it coming." :)

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Never count yourself out

I want to get deep for a moment...
There have been times in my life recently where I just felt like giving up completely; I was so down all the time and nothing helped. But then there came that point in life where I realized "my life is wasting away while I'm sitting here freaking crying... and over what?!"
I've been blessed with a lot in my life... great job, great family, great friends, just a great life...
In the past few weeks, I had this realization of "my gosh, I gotta get a grip and start getting out more!"... since I got to that point, it's like a weight has been lifted!
I wouldn't trade the heartaches for anything because I'm starting to see already how much I have grown.... one realization came lastnight when I was told that I come across as a very independent person... major difference from being called "spoiled"... cough cough haha.
By hearing that, it clicked something in my brain.. that hey maybe the breakup and multiple pity parties have done me some good... because I reached such a low depressed point that I told myself I had to be my own person before I could ever be truly happy.
I'm proud to say that maybe I have finally gotten to that point! Hallelujah!!
Another lesson: God has always got my back. There were times when I did the whole "God, why why why?!" thing, but now I see that God simply was like "girl, you need to go through this because you're relying too much on others to make you happy."
And hopefully, God is now looking down saying "atta girl." :)

Friday, November 2, 2012

It's been a while...

Well it has certainly been a while since I updated my blog... and boy has my life changed since that last post....
Since my last post, I have experienced my first true breakup... was not easy, but I think I'm finally coming to grips with it.. even though it has been a few months...
Now, I'm starting to see that the breakup was needed because since then, so many things have opened up in my life and so many good changes have come about.
God has a plan for me and I truly believe that...
Since the breakup, I have found a new job as an admissions counselor at the college I graduated from! The job obviously pays more and also gives me the chance to help others succeed in their dream to attend college and better themselves... and that means so much to me to be able to that.
In every job I do, I want to make an impact on someone's life. This job I feel will help me to impact more people's lives. Working in newspaper, I never felt like I was making a difference and helping others and I dreamed of having a job that would allow me to do so ... and now I have it!
Also in the last few months, I have gotten my own place.. which has helped me to appreciate all the little things that my mom had to do on a daily basis.. because now I'm having to do everything for myself! And doing things for myself is sooo rewarding too!
I'm only 21 years old and I feel that I have positioned myself well in life.. and the feeling of "having made it" is so fulfilling. Granted no one is ever truly happy, but that is the mystery in life and the drive in life, is to keep chugging along until you at least get to the point where you're temporarily satisfied.
In the past few months, I have realized that things can't always go my way, especially when it involves someone else. And that is the true realization is that things that I can control in my life and that are in my hands, it goes my way.
Like with my new job, granted I couldn't control whether I got the job or not, but I could control the impression I left to ensure that they could possibly look at me as a potential employee.
Relationships are out of my control... and that's the one thing I struggle with.
I could blame myself for the downfall or whatever, but I'm not going to... because the bottom line is that it's something I can't control... the things I can control, I'm good at succeeding in them, so stick to that!